Fifty Shades of Grey

Fifty Shades of Grey…..

(Adult Conversation)

Unless you have been hiding you most likely have heard of the phenomena of the new book “Fifty Shades of Grey”.  I begin hearing about this “new” book series that was coming out called Fifty Shades of Grey over a year ago.  It did not really catch my interest because all I heard was don’t read those books they are unbiblical.  Due to the fact that I don’t read a lot of secular books I did not think much of it.  Until…….

I saw the commercial recently for the movie.  I watched the commercial and with out knowing exactly what movie it was, I was interested.  I know what your thinking what would interest me in that commercial.  I think what perked my interest was how they made this relationship look exciting.  Sorry but I don’t know many women who don’t desire to be cherished by a man, to be protected by a strong man, to be rescued by a man, to feel sexual alive.  That is what Hollywood is hoping for, that is how they set up the commercials, and that is how they are advertising not only the books but the movie.  So are those feeling wrong?  Are Christian women allowed to talk about this stuff?

The media is promoting this book as if women have been held sexually captive and that now “moms ages 30-50 are now finally able to revive their libido” (New York Times)

I’m not going to debate the idea of how sexuality has been portrayed in many churches for years, but I will say it is God’s gift to a husband and wife and includes sexual intimacy that is intended to be an expression of love and respect between a man and a woman.  During my ministry I have been asked about what is “acceptable” in the bedroom and I have used the same scripture every time. 1 Corinthians 10:23-24.  “All things are lawful, but not all things are helpful.  All things are lawful, but not all things build up. Let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbor.”

So what do I get from this verse is that a husband and wife would need to ask them selves • Is this beneficial?

Is is constructive?

Is is loving?

And does it master me?

Additional, I believe that the scripture is very clear about some other thing too…

Fornication, Adultery, Impurity, Incest, and Lustful passion.

So I go back to my questions is it ok for a women to have certain feeling and can Christian women talk about those feeling?  I believe that the church has keep quiet about sexuality to the point that when a book like this come out many are drawn to it.  I believe that we see proof of this simply by the 250% increase in the e-book sales of this book alone.  However, I believe that this movies promotions of Porn, Erotica, the Glorification of bondage, dominance, sadim and masochism (BDSM) is very dangerous and very sad, and moves far from Authentic Intimacy.

Many in the field of counseling have written on subject discussed in Fifty Shades of Grey that make porn and erotica as exciting.  What they find is it does the very opposite and is destructive for relationships.

As a momma of 6 children, 1 boy and 5 girls, I want my children to understand what scripture says about sexuality.  I know that Sex sells and as a parent I can only guide what my children see, and watch in my home for so long.  I know that I want my children and those that I know to be wise, and educated.  I don’t want them turning to movies, books, tv shows, and how culture tells them to their marriage bed should look like.  Instead I want them to turn to God and to their husband/wife and prayerfully talk about it.


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2 Replies to “Fifty Shades of Grey”

  1. I think it’s important that we represent a Christian viewpoint in the
    whole debate. We can’t just be opposed to it, we need to have something
    to present that engages those hoodwinked by the original 50 shades
    enough to show them that Christianity has a valid (better) alternative.

    I’ve talked to people til I’m blue in the face about the movie and domestic
    violence and respect etc etc but it’s hard to make them listen. I did
    though find a Christian fiction alternative that is mirrored on the
    story but presents God’s love not the fake and manipulative 50 shades
    love. I’ve found a few of my secular friends have said, oh okay if
    you’re just giving me a novel I’ll read it whereas they wouldn’t have
    engaged in a full blown debate over it.

    Two of those friends have now started to (periodically) attend church. One said to me ‘I didn’t know you had a bigger love until I read that book.’

    Drawback is it’s only on kindle though

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